Married couples “choosing” not to reproduce, even in this “Golden Age of the DINKs,” are a tiny minority. The arguments in favor of childlessness sound mostly like so much sour grapes from married women who let their biological clock expire in favor of a feminist inspired life of materialism and “sexual freedom.” There’s little chance that using “our creativity, care, and cooperation for the people already in our lives” will even earn us an occasional visitor in our aged infirmity, let alone a meaningful legacy that lasts beyond the settlement of our estates. Social and economic arguments for discretionary childless marriages converge to nihilism, a fancy term for “existence without meaning,” as opposed to “Be fruitful and multiply.” Using the sorry condition of the world as an excuse to be childless basically boils down to "despair," which is a grave spiritual sickness. Until the Anglican Lambeth Conference of 1930 permitted contraception in the Protestant Church, discretionary childlessness was considered a great sin against God. The Catholic Church warned culturally permissive contraception would lead to institutionalized abortion, a sexually libertine societies, and even the open promotion of homosexuality. Unfortunately, the Catholic Church, a hundred years later having been fully infiltrated, is joining this culture of death. At first tacitly, and today openly.
Excellent Article! Very good analysis of being child-free for empathy towards new life. We can use our creativity, care, and cooperation for the people already in our lives.
I feel the same way — completely relate to everything you wrote. Thank you for sharing it with such clarity and heart. My father recently sent me an article titled something like “being childfree is a sign of a selfish and irresponsible person,” and honestly, I was stunned. Living in a country at war right now, I can’t imagine a more irresponsible decision than bringing a child into such uncertainty. Choosing not to have children is often rooted in deep reflection, empathy, and awareness — and it deserves far more respect than it gets.
wow, are you me?! literally felt like you got into my brain before writing this, holy shit 🩷 never felt more seen
Comments like this remind me why I write in the first place. Thank you so much 🩷
love this!!
thanks angel!
of course!!
Married couples “choosing” not to reproduce, even in this “Golden Age of the DINKs,” are a tiny minority. The arguments in favor of childlessness sound mostly like so much sour grapes from married women who let their biological clock expire in favor of a feminist inspired life of materialism and “sexual freedom.” There’s little chance that using “our creativity, care, and cooperation for the people already in our lives” will even earn us an occasional visitor in our aged infirmity, let alone a meaningful legacy that lasts beyond the settlement of our estates. Social and economic arguments for discretionary childless marriages converge to nihilism, a fancy term for “existence without meaning,” as opposed to “Be fruitful and multiply.” Using the sorry condition of the world as an excuse to be childless basically boils down to "despair," which is a grave spiritual sickness. Until the Anglican Lambeth Conference of 1930 permitted contraception in the Protestant Church, discretionary childlessness was considered a great sin against God. The Catholic Church warned culturally permissive contraception would lead to institutionalized abortion, a sexually libertine societies, and even the open promotion of homosexuality. Unfortunately, the Catholic Church, a hundred years later having been fully infiltrated, is joining this culture of death. At first tacitly, and today openly.
Excellent Article! Very good analysis of being child-free for empathy towards new life. We can use our creativity, care, and cooperation for the people already in our lives.
I feel the same way — completely relate to everything you wrote. Thank you for sharing it with such clarity and heart. My father recently sent me an article titled something like “being childfree is a sign of a selfish and irresponsible person,” and honestly, I was stunned. Living in a country at war right now, I can’t imagine a more irresponsible decision than bringing a child into such uncertainty. Choosing not to have children is often rooted in deep reflection, empathy, and awareness — and it deserves far more respect than it gets.